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irishqirl
Thanks for the reply. A little history, I didn't disclose my income to him outside of my salary, I didn't go into my investment income or other inherited income as it shouldn't apply to the next marriage so he wasn't really aware of the 5 times income. I only visited when his kids were with their mother previously and this was supposed to be the point we were all together as one before getting married, I didn't even meet the kids until about 5 months ago. I do have a child but he is now 18 its irrelevant to my divorce. The BF was originally really pushing for me to buy another house but I stated I wouldn't do that until marriage so the lease was a compromise. We also couldn't agree on the amount of house to purchase, I wanted cheaper, he wanted something around 800k because his kids needed something nice after going through a divorce (according to him). He doesn't want to feel rushed into marriage however which should be a red flag I guess. There are many other red flags that scream narcissist/BPD. I have not seen a copy of the divorce. I tried to look up/download/purchase a copy of the divorce but the state of SC seems to only release these to the people listed in the divorce, the lawyers and spouses of the people listed in the divorce according to their website. Ive been loaded up with a guilt trip about how he could lose his kids if I show up and he cant afford the ex taking him back to court.
I think I'm going to push the issue and see where it falls. Im sure he will play the guilt and victim card but Im already paying for this place (he also pays part of the rent), writing all this down and rereading it, the whole thing screams manipulation.