Actually, that's a really good point. I am constantly getting emails for a woman in Ireland whose email is one letter off from mine.
I have an email address that regularly gets email intended for others all over the world, including bank statements, party invitations, cell phone bills, and private conversation. All it takes is for a correspondent to not use a letter or number or two, and I've got mail.
Don't make me quote Monty Python at you.
It isnt your attorneys job to chase after you to make sure you are doing what you’re supposed to be doing. That is your job and since the last email said “ please let me know if you completed the [obligations], well, as far as she was concerned if you didn’t follow up, well, she isn’t your mother. You are the one that would suffer the consequences for failing to do the work.
The biggest issue, still, is your fathers involvement and his failure to follow up when it appeared the attorney wasn’t contacting you. Again, that was actually your responsibility since you were the client but I get the dad thing but all that does is mean this is his failure. I don’t see the attorney at fault here.
For future reference;
an attorney is not your parent and isn’t going to chase you down to make sure you did your homework. They will treat you like an adult and let you do the right thing or screw up; its your option. If you believe there is something wrong, it is your obligation to check into it and not expect anybody else to. In this situation, you appear to have realized something was amiss but you depended on your father to take care of things. That didn’t work out the best for you.