My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Missouri
My children's father and I split up 3 1/2 years ago and we currently have joint custody with me being the primary/residential parent, he has them every Wednesday and every other weekend. We have 4 children (boy 15, boy 11, girl 8 and boy 6) Since we split he has lived with several different family members with the most recent being his cousins house for the past year. When my kids are with him my 6 year old son and 8 year old daughter sleeps in bed with him and the 15 & 11 year old boys on an air mattress on the floor next to him. He is an alcoholic and my children mention how he is always drinking around them and my 6 yr old mentions he will always have to go inside to get him two beers. He is a narcissist and I am dealing with mind warping, brain washing and parent alienation. I know this is hard to prove in a court setting (the alienation and mind warping) but it is getting worse, he talks horribly about me and my husband in front of the kids and speaks to them about adult matters. My oldest stated he does not even want to go back to his dads after this past weekend and told me he is concerned that his 11 year old brother is depressed.
I am seeking help and am getting ready to take him to court with my lawyer suggesting counseling for my kids. I know this is going to be hard to prove but is the living environment even ok?
im getting conflicting information which brought me here...I've been speaking with the same lawyer who helped with the original custody agreement and meet with him on the 30th. He has advised that the fact that their father resides in a basement of his cousins house and that our 2 younger children sleep in his bed and the other two children of puberty age sleep on an air mattress on the floor next to the others is not a proper living environment for the kids. I get that bring a beer is not illegal but like I said he is an alcoholic and drives with them while he has been drinking and that is all he does when my kids are with him. I'm getting told by 2 different lawyers that the living conditions are ok then the other one says absolutely not.