Please watch how you phrase things. This is not RAPE. Until you are a victim of a vicious sexual assault, neither you nor "generations of men" have been RAPED.
That said, you made the decisions to marry this lady, bear children with her, buy a home with her, and to be the primary breadwinner. The court might look at what she could make and take it into account. That said, you are the one that bears the responsibility for setting up this specific set of facts, but now you want to be with the girlfriend, so it is all the court and your wife's fault? Dude, put it back in your pants! And realize that yes, you are responsible and will get taken to the cleaners, deservedly!

