Thank you, everyone. Since it seems there's little that can be done, it may just be best to pay the child support and not try to establish a relationship at this point, given that the child lives so far away and doesn't know my husband at all. I wish that my husband had taken steps sooner, but I wasn't even aware of the existence of this child until after we were married. I can't even begin to imagine what this child has been feeling. I hope he has a stepfather or father figure of some sort in his life, even if it isn't his legal or biological father.

