I'm a dad in CA just trying to make it. My ex and I have been divorced for 15 years and we have a 19 and 17 year old together. I have religiously paid for child support, for more than 10 years. In the begining I had a bought of bad luck and gave cash to her whenever I had it. Because she worked in a lawyers office she knows the ins and out of support, she tacked on arrers to me because she knew the cash could not be tracked. To make a long story short my arrears of course are astronomical and adding up daily. My ex has been remarried for several years now and has another child with this man who doesn't do anything. She seems to be constantly after me for money. I was employed for several years making $70K a year and lost my job and fell on hard times, I would send money to the support agency but to her it wasn't enough. She had my license suspended with no notice and I was no longer able to do my work. I had to pay a couple thousand to get it reinstated and just recently go a new job but only making 1/2 of my $70K a y ear. She has garnished my wages to where I am paying $500 in a arrears and $200 in childsupport. I cannot afford this plus my living expenses on the salary I am making. I have always been there for my kids, but their mother is not reasonable. I was told to fill out the paperwork to get the amount lowered, but I won't get a court date for 3 months. Is there anything I can do in the meantime. I need to lower my payments plus get the arrears drastically reduced. Looking for quick advice.