
Quoting
bjornenolejonet
I, the defender lives with son, the plaintiff has son every other weekend. On many occasions the plaintiff will not exercise his right to parental time. The plaintiff is claiming:expenses have gone up, financial hardship, have almost no authority or even correspondence with child, and ex is now employed.
During divorce process my (defendant) income was computed very low due to me being a stay at home mom for 15yrs. I am working now, and yes, my salary has gone up. The plaintiff is probably earning 5-6 times more than I am at this point.
If plaintiff is a big spender and live beyond his means, can and should the defendant be punished for that with a lowering of support? Original decree states 6 years of support, and we are midway through that. In three more years I will be very destitute on my own salary and will be forced figure things out. The child is afflicted with mental disabilities and will most likely live at home until well in his twenties. I am stuck in the marital home that is co-owned, the plaintiff is refusing to sell it. It was on the market for 6 months and didn't sell. Now he is refusing to sign with a new realtor to sell.
Also, we deviated from the typical formula calculating child/alimony. The plaintiff came up with a number for child/alimony and that is what we signed off on.