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    Default What Are Your Options if Your Ex Keeps Making False Police Calls

    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: MO

    I'm posting this under custody and visitation because the calls typically involve our custody schedule and the children.

    My ex calls the police whenever I don't do what he wants. For example, he wanted me to switch days recently and I politely said I couldn't (which was true - we had something planned). He stated that if I did not show up at his home with the kids, he'd assume something was wrong and notify the police. I said, "The kids are okay, nothing is wrong. I'm sorry, but we are just unable to switch our visitation schedule today." He then called the police anyway and said he was scared, so they came out to my home.

    Last year he called and said I poisoned the kids. That was a nightmare. Thankfully the police figured out he was lying after I let them read the texts he sent me right before his call, but before that, I had to wake up the kids and show the police they were alive and well. It was late at night, and the kids were pretty scared to be woken up by police at our house.

    When I first left my ex - which was years ago - he called the police every day for more than a month. He made false noise complaints, etc. late at night when the kids and I were already in bed. The kids were babies at the time so they'd wake up and cry each time the police beat on the door late at night. My landlord also got angry about the constant police visits and said we'd have to leave if it continued.

    During some of the visits, the police have mentioned getting another restraining order against my ex. This would be restraining order #3. Unfortunately the judge denied my request a few months ago so now I'm not sure what to do.

    Should I visit the in-house officer and make a report each time ex makes a fake call? Should I keep trying for another restraining order? It's really stressful to deal with this.

    I'm terrified to call the police myself because my ex told me that he contacted them to say I pretend he harasses me and abuses the kids whenever I'm mad at him. I have never done this and would never do this, but now I'm scared the police think I'm just some petty ex.

    More details in case they matter: Ex is currently being investigated by our local PD for a child-related crime (I wasn't the one who reported him) and also has several active CPS investigations open against him (all of the calls came from mandated reporters but ex thinks they came from me). Because of all this our judge temporarily reduced his custody til our trial.

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    Default Re: What Are My Options if My Ex Keeps Making False Police Calls

    Did you have an attorney to assist in filing the latest restraining order or did you attempt to get it on your own? Do you have an attorney for the trial? Is it for visitation and custody or something else? How long do you have to wait to be heard?

    How old are the kids? If there is a suspicion of abuse while they are in his care, have you gotten them into counseling? Have you talked to a domestic violence counselor? I would describe his behavior as a form of stalking; you need to determine how this is handled in your community. In my community there is a office that assists victims of domestic violence as well as an agency that provides parenting classes and other assistance.

    For problems with extreme behavior by the ex, you need professional help.

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    I attempted to file the latest RO on my own. I think this was a mistake.

    I do have an attorney for the custody trial that's scheduled this summer. We also have a contempt hearing (ex is in contempt) that got combined with our custody trial.

    The kids are in counseling/therapy and also in support groups.

    I haven't talked to a domestic violence counselor, but I'm going to Google them now. Thank you!

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    Default Re: What Are My Options if My Ex Keeps Making False Police Calls

    I have little patience for people (men or women) who try to use the police for a strictly civil matter. While the DV counselor may not be able to help you directly, ask about a referral to someone who can and for strategies to protect yourself and the kids.

    In some communities, there is assistance for the proper filing of protective/restraining orders. ask your attorney about obtaining an order for both of you to attend a "children of divorce"/co-parenting class. You go even if he won't.

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    Default Re: What Are My Options if My Ex Keeps Making False Police Calls

    I knew a woman who liked to do that sort of thing, only she didn't just do it to her ex, she did it to everyone who crossed her for any reason. She also didn't just call the police, she would call the police, CPS, animal control and sometime immigration. Eventually the police had enough records of her false calls that they actually arrested her and she went to jail for false reporting. You might throw yourself on the mercy of the next cops that come to your home. They might just be willing to arrest your ex.

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    Default Re: What Are My Options if My Ex Keeps Making False Police Calls

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    I attempted to file the latest RO on my own. I think this was a mistake.

    I do have an attorney for the custody trial that's scheduled this summer. We also have a contempt hearing (ex is in contempt) that got combined with our custody trial.

    The kids are in counseling/therapy and also in support groups.

    I haven't talked to a domestic violence counselor, but I'm going to Google them now. Thank you!
    I was speaking with a DV advocate at my last duty station for the almost 4 years I was there and it helped a lot. It's not always the case - the base I was at before that one their DV advocates were horrible and extremely unhelpful. I had a friend who had an issue with them too.

    It helps when to have an objective party to talk to.

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