I have little patience for people (men or women) who try to use the police for a strictly civil matter. While the DV counselor may not be able to help you directly, ask about a referral to someone who can and for strategies to protect yourself and the kids.
In some communities, there is assistance for the proper filing of protective/restraining orders. ask your attorney about obtaining an order for both of you to attend a "children of divorce"/co-parenting class. You go even if he won't.

