There's nothing you can do to solve this as long as you continue to think that all her actions have to be for your convenience. You should be allowed to bend the order but she has to follow it exactly, unless if would benefit you for her to bend the order in which case she should do so. Meanwhile as long as it works for you you're going to follow it to the letter regardless of her convenience, but as soon as it's no longer convenient for you it's okay to break it. As long as that's your attitude, which it has been as long as you've been posting her under any name, there is no solution to your problem.