I don't think I would have handled the situation as the wife did. Wife considered Haley a friend. Friends sometimes share personal information and instances, and personal problems. These are two females (not mixed gender) that may have shared personal problems. Haley said it was a joke and meant no harm.

I think that had I been in that situation, I would have asked Haley about it before reporting it to the boss. Too late now.

Or maybe not.