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    Default Re: Aggressive Bouncer, Claims of Sex Offense

    Unless the officer cited or arrested you on the spot, chances are it's all over and done with. If they said never to return to the bar, don't return to the bar.

    I suspect there are some details being left out of this tale, but it appears that you should have nothing to worry about from this particular encounter.

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    I do appreciate your response. Still worried as the bouncer has a picture of my driver's license. He really seemed like he needed to prove something although when I said how this could ruin my life, I saw a faint glimmer of humanity. I was so dumb to go there and dumb to give him my ID. The officer justified letting me go by saying "I didn't see anything" (i.e., he didn't have probably cause), but what is the likelihood the bar wants to be aggressive and the bouncer files a complaint? I know they have better things to do, but he did say he was going to write an incident report. Also, I could be blackmailed. Geez. I do appreciate your sentiments and your signature line ... I just hope they don't file any charges ... seems that it wouldn't do them any good. Arghhhh ... I wish I could stop worrying. Thanks again for your response.

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    The bouncer doesn’t file charges. They would file a report. After that it would be up to the police or prosecutor to take it any further.

    If you have been fairly open here I don’t see any crime nor do I see a basis for the police to really give it any attention.

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    Thanks for your response. In the bouncers' views, I was playing with myself in the stall, at least that's what I gleaned from what they were saying. What is the likelihood they file a report to the police? And if they do, what is the likelihood the police pursue this? As I said, I have a clearance, and this is very threatening to me. I wish I hadn't let the bouncer take a picture of my drivers license. If they go through the trouble of filing a report, how long would it be before I hear anything if they pursue things? I'm trying to not freak out, but this is very very unsettling.

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    Default Re: Aggressive Bouncer, Claims of Sex Offense

    In order asked:

    Given the fact the police were called, there may already be a report. Or the officer may have just written it off. Who knows?

    Can't say but again, probably not too likely. Jerkin' the gherkin in a bathroom stall happens. Yes, I know that isn't what you were doing but I'm just saying in general, it happens. You were in the stall facing away from the door, riiiight? If not, it's good advise for next time.

    You could hear something anytime between 20 minutes from now and whenever the statute of limitations for whatever they might think of charging you with runs out.

    Any idea why the bouncer was even in there? Did he come in to use the bathroom, just doing rounds or did maybe someone report that they thought you were doing something inappropriate in there?

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    Default Re: Aggressive Bouncer, Claims of Sex Offense

    Thanks free9man. First, the officer who arrived on scene did apparently write it off as he let me go. I was in a stall and there was a slit where either a bouncer saw me or some other patron saw me in there and thought I was doing something ... At any rate, a bouncer came in it seems in response to a complaint and demanded I leave which I did. But I was still dribbling and so, despite feeling humiliated being escorted out, I went to another nearby bar to my great regret. How much effort/time or likelihood that the bar/bouncer would file a written report as opposed to just calling it in. The bouncer spoke to the officer for just a short while ... who know, may have told him he had my ID. Or he may just have told the officer what they thought happened. The officer spoke to me and let me go. I'm sitting on pins and needles! I guess it would NOT be advisable to call the police to make inquiries of sorts, but the temptation is there to resolve the uncertainties. Arghhhh...

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    Quote Quoting WorriedSick9
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    Thanks free9man. First, the officer who arrived on scene did apparently write it off as he let me go. I was in a stall and there was a slit where either a bouncer saw me or some other patron saw me in there and thought I was doing something ... At any rate, a bouncer came in it seems in response to a complaint and demanded I leave which I did. But I was still dribbling and so, despite feeling humiliated being escorted out, I went to another nearby bar to my great regret. How much effort/time or likelihood that the bar/bouncer would file a written report as opposed to just calling it in. The bouncer spoke to the officer for just a short while ... who know, may have told him he had my ID. Or he may just have told the officer what they thought happened. The officer spoke to me and let me go. I'm sitting on pins and needles! I guess it would NOT be advisable to call the police to make inquiries of sorts, but the temptation is there to resolve the uncertainties. Arghhhh...
    I'm not buying your story at all. The chances of someone reporting your behavior while you were in a stall "checking your tights" is so small as to be nonexistent. Your pearl-clutching hysteria and worry about losing your clearance indicates that you weren't at all private about your privates, which is why they booted you and called the police.

    What's done is done, but as long as you stay away from the bars you were bounced from, nothing is likely to come of your indiscretions.

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    Default Re: Aggressive Bouncer, Claims of Sex Offense

    Further, it's probably pretty clear to the cop that even if you were jerking off in the stall, that's not criminal behavior. Indecent exposure requires doing so in public and where others are present and may witness the act.

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    Further, it's probably pretty clear to the cop that even if you were jerking off in the stall, that's not criminal behavior. Indecent exposure requires doing so in public and where others are present and may witness the act.
    Isn’t there also a crime called indecent private exposure, which could fall under these circumstances? I’ve heard of people being charged with this in NY city park bathroom stings.

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    Isn’t there also a crime called indecent private exposure, which could fall under these circumstances? I’ve heard of people being charged with this in NY city park bathroom stings.
    Not under Maryland law. Just about anything else has to run to production of pornography or public perforances. None of which would apply ehre.

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