oops, sorry, I meant "If I do object" won't that send a red flag. I know that it will. See, told you I was frazzled!! Thank god my husband is being supportive, and I don't associate at all with these people anymore, I even went as far as to put a block on my phone line so that they won't call me from jail. I guess I was stupid, naive, 20 years ago I trained to become a police officer, I should have seen the signs. I should have known better, I thought the woman in question was clean. She was recovering from an addiction from years ago she said. I believed her. Everyone makes mistakes I told myself and my family. If she really was my new"friend", she wouldn't of put me or my son in that situation in the first place. thank you everyone for responding.

