I live in Texas. I am joining back up with the military. Will be going back into active army life. I am about to get married to a woman ive been with for 2 + years. She has 2 children from a previous marriage and is pregnant with my child. Ive read many forums about this issue of dealing with visitation and the NCP. The NCP is not a willing participant when it comes to negotiations of anything. Unfortunently my future wife signed a decree restricting her to the state of Texas. I informed her that there was a possibility that the court could tell her she has to give up custody in order to move. She doubts this will happen but I believe there is (in this day in age) a very real possibility that the judge could say no.
She has been the primary parent for the kiddos aged 4 and 6 the entire time. They have always lived with us. NCP is still in their lives to some extent and sees them every other weekend and through the summer. Although he currently lives over 100 miles away from us now.
Thinking about it has me physically nauseas but I know that this has to be addressed. Any advice or experiences would be greatly appreciated. I know we will have to seek out an attorney. Just hate putting her in this situation but the idea of being confined to this state for 12 to 18 years and not being able to pursue my dreams would create overwhelming resentment. I know the resentment will be there if she gives up custody too.
Please help or send advice.