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shellieg
I live in Southern California and i need help asap. I am almost 7 months pregnant with my ex bf's baby. I lived with him for 5 months and moved out due to him being a pothead, having parties till 6AM, minors drinking in the home, neglect for his 4 year old son, not working, he put me 10k in credit card debt promising to pay me back, i supposted him and his son for the entire 5 months. He only contributed 600 dollars the entire time. I bailed him out of jail for his 2nd DUI and also got his car out of tow under a promise to pay me back. Anyways, my main concern nis my unborn son. I saw what kind of a father he was to his other son while i lived with him. I did everything i could to shield his son from his obvious neglect. He would not brush his sons teeth for days on end, he let him urinate his bed and not wash his childs bedding until the smell of urine was so bad it would linger into the ENTIRE house, (or unless i said something or did it myself) , his son would poop his underpants and he would NOT clean off his bottom AND he would throw the poop filled pants and underpants on the floor in his childs room and leave them there for weeks. He would feed him mac and cheese for breakfast or chips or whatever the child wanted unless i spoke up on his behalf. He would sleep for hours and allow his toddler to be unsupervised for hours wandering all over the home getting into whatever he could find. I did warn the childs mother via e mail about this when i moved out, to warn her of what goes on in that home. She is no better. They are both alcoholics and not only do i fear for that child still...(parties still go on with that child in the home) i Fear for the courts to allow ANY sort of unsupervised visitation with this man. He is 27 years old but has the mental capacity of a teenager. I see how he is with that boy, why would he be any different with my son? I am going today to file for sole physical and legal custody of my unborn son. I want to be proactive in this situation. He thinks i have a history of domestic violence which i do not. There is one police report regarding me and my ex where he and i bother were listed as suspect AND victim. And i will have a written notarized statement from that man regarding my character. I have asked that he be honest in his statement. Furthermore, i am am collecting data from his myspace account showing that he is contributing to the deliquency of minors by allowing them to drink inhis home, i am printing out harrassing statements about me (where he lists my full name) calling me a controlling whore and a ****en evil botch etc. . I have e mailed his current 20 year old girlfriend to warn her about the type of person he is. (I am the 5th or 6th pregnancy that he has inflicted) The boy and my unborn son are the only living children. All other women got abortions. They didnt want to deal with what i am going through. I think he honestly wants to just get s many women pregnant as he can. He threatens to take my son away from me or make me move back up to northern cali, which i know he cannot legaly do. He is stressing me out to no end! I just want to make sure my son is SAFE. What else can i do to prevent him from unsupervised visits with my son in the future? I want to be proactive and take charge of this situation. And obviously, i am scared to death. please...what else can i do?