Child Support Payments To A Parent Who Chooses Not To Work

[jojo4]

And think about this... you are hearing a story from the new wife who has no business being involved at all in this situation. If her HUSBAND has a problem, HE can deal with it.

Yes, your statement WAS offensive, not only to me, but women everywhere. You essentially called a mother a prostitute. So, does your theory hold true for men, as well?

And this should really toast your buns...I don't work a paying job. I am a stay at home mother who works her ass off everyday raising 4 competent, polite, capable human beings.

[InfoSeeker73]

Jojo, lets let "tiredofex" and her spouse worry about her level of involvement as it concerns his/their child support and household finances. If she is willing to love and support him while putting up with 4 children from another marriage and a freeloading ex she deserves all the support SHE can get. It sounds like he has been very blessed to find her.
And no, my previous statement was not offensive to "women everywhere". It was, I'm sure, offensive to those fitting the description, male or female.
"Toast" my buns? lol Are you this entertaining in person? Again, good job on staying at home with the kids and not being a leech. Shall we give you a gold star on the forehead or one of those cute little atta' girl ribbons?

[jojo4]

No, I would just appreciate your apology for calling a stay at home mother a prostitute. But, I don't expect that type of decency from one who would say something to that effect, to begin with. You have no idea what the true situation is other than a new wife complaining because the ex stays home with her children and is still recieving child support. Furthermore, by the SM's addmission, the mother does not recieve an outrageous amount of child support for 4 children. You also seem to have a problem with the fact that there are more than 2 children involved. I say this because you keep saying "that many chidren". Believe it or not, 4 children is hardly shocking. A parent receiving child support is not a leach and is NOT a prostitute. If Dad didn't want to pay, he could have toughed out the marriage or elected to have a vasectomy.




And yes, I am very entertaining.

[eme]

Well, I see my point was proven (several times)...She is NOT living ONLY off the CS
There is a BIG differance between someone not working and having extended family helping them out, and someone abusing the "system".

I do not have a paying job nor do I recieve the CS that my child's father is ordered to pay (not that $160 bucks would cover much anyway)...however I have NEVER recieved any form of state-aid.

I am with jojo4, OP needs to butt out of the situation and get over herself. Just because she is choosing to work outside the home dosent mean that her hubby's ex is doing anything wrong

[cissycicle]

The ex is receiving court ordered child support and she is being attacked by the OP and her newfound online comrades. I haven't seen any complaints about the ex neglecting or abusing the four kids she got dumped with. Nothing has been said about how the payer of the CS feels. The poor sap undoubtedly gets an earful every waking moment he is with the OP.

Is it okay with the OP for married women to stay home with the kids because the husband/father has income to support that lifestyle or is that simply considered legalized whoredom?

The OP needs to be very careful what she wishes for, she just might get it and it won't be as rewarding as she thinks.

[CaliforniaMom]

Honestly, I've been reading this whole thing and you know what I think the best thing for the ex to do is? Pack up her 4 kids for 6 months and send them over to the OP and her husband, then the OP can see just how much it costs to raise 4 kids (+1), while she goes to work like she's suggesting the ex do. Inevitably then she'd be on someone else's board complaining about her having to raise kids that aren't even hers. The poor husband must be miserable. Not by having to pay his support, which by the way, if anyone has done the math is 6.67 per day/child (you can't even eat on that a day much less live), but being married to someone who thought his past would erase because she came into his life.

[InfoSeeker73]

Hang in there "tiredofex"! If your spouse's ex was working previously you may be able to impute her income and get the support lowered a little. Also, what he pays in insurance should factor into the equation. As far as the insurance goes, put yourself on your own insurance if possible. Doing so will allow him to claim more going toward the children if it comes to that. It sounds like the children are more appropriately cared for and have a much better quality of life during the time they spend in your care. If they stay in your care for a great percentage of the year that can be yet another factor in lowering support. If all else fails you may have to wait this one out. Above all else STICK TOGETHER. Don't let anyone with their own self serving agenda tell you to butt out or back down. My spouse and I have helped and supported each other greatly, consequently we have two very well trained ex's.
I no longer have time to respond to all the negative, closed minded comments on this forum. Surprising how those who are supposed to be taking care of several children in the home have so much time to spend on the computer. I imagine there are some little ones being raised by the tv and game systems provided by CS. Quality time well wasted. lol

[cissycicle]

Hang in there "tiredofex"! If your spouse's ex was working previously you may be able to impute her income and get the support lowered a little. Also, what he pays in insurance should factor into the equation. As far as the insurance goes, put yourself on your own insurance if possible. Doing so will allow him to claim more going toward the children if it comes to that. It sounds like the children are more appropriately cared for and have a much better quality of life during the time they spend in your care. If they stay in your care for a great percentage of the year that can be yet another factor in lowering support. If all else fails you may have to wait this one out. Above all else STICK TOGETHER. Don't let anyone with their own self serving agenda tell you to butt out or back down. My spouse and I have helped and supported each other greatly, consequently we have two very well trained ex's.
I no longer have time to respond to all the negative, closed minded comments on this forum. Surprising how those who are supposed to be taking care of several children in the home have so much time to spend on the computer. I imagine there are some little ones being raised by the tv and game systems provided by CS. Quality time well wasted. lol

So true. The OP certainly is wasting quality time with her kid.

[tiredofex]

Honestly, I've been reading this whole thing and you know what I think the best thing for the ex to do is? Pack up her 4 kids for 6 months and send them over to the OP and her husband, then the OP can see just how much it costs to raise 4 kids (+1), while she goes to work like she's suggesting the ex do. Inevitably then she'd be on someone else's board complaining about her having to raise kids that aren't even hers. The poor husband must be miserable. Not by having to pay his support, which by the way, if anyone has done the math is 6.67 per day/child (you can't even eat on that a day much less live), but being married to someone who thought his past would erase because she came into his life.

Yes I knew all this when I met him. I love him and his kids. And the whole 6 month thing...I don't have a problem with it. We're actually going to do that when we move to their school dist. I know what its like to have all of them around but its different when their your step children....Their mother does not disipline them in anyway. The poor husband was miserable when he was with his ex...While she cheated on him while he was serving for our country in Iraq and wiped out his checking account. Theres alot more to this story than everyone thinks....YOu all think I'm some evil new wife that hates for stepkids and my husbands past. If that was the case I would have never married him. But I do my best in supporting that miserable husband!!

[ohiogirl21]

Out of curiosity...how old are the children?