Sorry, I guess I wasn't clear:

I am and have been in counseling every week for the past 3 years. It is our previous marriage counselor so very well aware of both people involved.

My oldest child is also in counseling, hence the part of the court-ordered therapist accusing my ex of emotional abuse.

I'm not really sure how this can be considered 're-hashing' when it is currently going on. My ex is currently leaving our kids with his mother while he pursues fame and fortune duirng his veryt limited visitation. My question is: Would that be considered a factor for the cusotdy evaluator in making her recommenadation?

I do not engage. I do not speak to him at all. I have a DVRO (Domestic Violence Restraining Order) on him, and the DA's office has a CPO (Criminal Protective Order) on him so it is ordered that we only ciommunicate via Our Family Wizard, and only as it relates to the kids. I have also had the court order that we do all exchanges at the police station.

I do not have an attorney. I paid him $50k and I have no more money.

Another question is: Does anyone know how long it usually take to get a recomendation after the evaluator has interviews collaterals? Can anyone share their story of their evaluation?

Does anyone know if a past criminal history will affect her recommendation, even if he pled the charges down to a misdeamanor and it was a long time ago?

Will the fact that he is currently facing charges of violating the restrainng order affect her recomendation? He is claiming 100% innocence and saying he is bascially being framed.

I am worrying constanty because I have no idea when the custody evaluator will make her recomendation. I have no idea how much it will cost. Or when the money will be due. I am worrying becasue I have heard that evaluators lean the way of the parent with the most money. Has anyone found this to be the case? I am worried because he is seemingly able to sail through this 730 evaluation without a care in the world while I am being reported by him for bringing our son to school late, or signing our son up for soccer during his custodial time (sopccer is every weekend), or having a phantom substance abuse issue (that no one can corroborate). I am under scrutiny and he is seemingly not.

When I asked for advice, I guess I should have clarified: Does anyone have any stories or experience with a cusotdy evaluation that was similar and/or had any similarities.

Thanks for the feedback-super helpful!

My 'vent' was really just trying to give back story. This is all of the info the cusotdy evaluator has about me and him. I was looking for advice or knowledge and/or opinions on how a custody evaluator would look at our case.