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I don't let him in the home! He comes in the driveway with in his car. He has entered backyard at times. My son is 14yo. I try to explain to my son why I am not taking the calls and won't let him be the go-between. It is hard for my son, he knows what is right but is put in a difficult position as his father threatens to turn off his phone if he doesn't get me on the phone. The threats to me are mostly of financial nature. If you don't do this - I will not pay, etc. We have a decree and alimony and child is going through CSE (of course that is not working as it should yet).
In our decree it specifies contact to only be via text or emails. If I don't respond it escalates and he tries to have my son be the messenger. "Have your mother call me it is an emergency." The last emergency was that the CSE was calling the credit bureaus because he was late on child support.
He is narcissistic type of person - wants what he wants when he wants it.
It has to end!
If the decree specifies that communication is to be between text and email only, then every time he sends a message for you to call him, respond via email or text. He may escalate for a short time, but eventually it will sink in that you are not going to communicate with him any way but email or text.