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PMMH
I'm going to be straight up and tell you that these come across as excuses. You already know what to expect from him, it won't be a surprise. You say it has nothing to do with the kids, so do what your kids need and take care of them. As a parent, our priorities do get put on the back burner in order to do what's best for our kids. It's not always fun or pretty, but it's what is right. These kids can't take care of themselves, and they did not ask to be in this situation. Imagine being 12-17 years old and having 2 parents fighting over who is NOT going to take them. You also said he is paying his arrears now. That's help and he will continue to accrue child support while you have them. You're going to have to get a full time job and make it work, or turn them over to someone else. You can't force him to keep them and he can't force you to raise them.