Hm. Interesting replies. I have a 17 YO daughter who does almost all of those things and it's very trying indeed. It is incumbent upon me to try to gain compliance but I find that manipulation works way better than the ham fisted measures here. Also, what are you going to do, really, if she doesn't comply. Sooner or later she will take matters into he own hands and either run away and there will be little done for it or she will continue to live with you and make you miserable.

Your daughter has way more power than you realize and. lucky for you, more than she realizes. When she realizes that it will only be harder.

I don't have any great advice other than patience. You need to decide what you need vs. what you want. If you run at her too hard she may bolt and cause irreparable damage.

Finally, examine your own life. Did you survive your teens? Are you trying to rectify past error through your child? I know that for me the answer to the first is yes and the second is sometimes. I work hard on not doing the second thing.