My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Michigan
So, I have a long winded question and possibly opinion. And of course advice. My court order states that we are to have every Tuesday and Thursday 2pm-8pm, and every other Saturday to Sunday noon to 5pm. The father of my child and I worked out a verbal agreement since his work schedule changed and changed a bunch of things. I know that verbal agreements do not usually stand in court. We agreed on every Thursday when he got out of work around 5:30 until about 8, since the child has school during the week and then every other full weekend from 1pm Friday until 1pm Sunday.
It’s been working weekend wise since the start, except for the occasional bringing the child home early. As for Thursdays, not so much. He has come to get the child on some Thursdays, and others he wouldn’t be able to get the child at all. He started working out of state and so it would be hard for him to get the child in time. He would argue with me on not letting him have the child for a full four day weekend or when I wouldn’t give in to letting him have a day of my weekend when he would miss the Thursday. He would tell me either last minute - a couple hours before when he would or wouldn’t be planning on getting the child, sometimes not at all.
Lately he’s been missing more and more of them to the point our child is crying and throwing fits and completely upset that dad will tell me last minute he won’t be coming after all, while they are all ready to go. This past Thursday he wasn’t able to come, and again this Thursday. I texted him and told him since this kept happening I wanted to stop all Thursdays. I was doing it for the benefit of our child and their feelings. That if he were to get a stable job in town and able to get back to Thursdays, we could bring them back. He refused and said he would still get the child the following Thursday. I didn’t say anymore as I felt I had said my say.
I now got a text from his wife this afternoon about how the following Thursday he still planned to get the child and she is planning on picking the child up, and he may not be there to parent. If I remember correctly in Michigan after a certain time of not being here on time, I do not have to send the child, and since he will not be picking the child up plenty long until after his ordered time, I don’t know if that matters? There has been a few times he has done this. What should I do? I really don’t want to go back to the original order since I want to let him have some time with his child. Any advice would be appreciated!