i live in california my husband and i have been married for 3 years and are now expecting our first child together. i have a 3 year old from a previous realtionship and we would like to have my husband legally adopt her. before my daughter turned one her real father took me to court for visitation and due to his failure to appear several times i was awarded full legal and physical custody and he was to have supervised visitation. he has seen my daughter a few times at his parents house and chooses not to call and has not paid his court ordered child support since september of 2006. the child support order was established before i was granted full legal and physical custody. do i still have to get his consent to let my husband adopt her? i fear that his parents will try to talk him out of allowing us to go through with the adoption process. my husband is in the military and has been in iraq for the past 6 months upon his return in may we want to see about him adopting her, he has been in her life since she was two weeks old and she calls him daddy. we have orders to move to virginia by july 31st, so we want to have it done before we leave. where should we start?