Results 1 to 4 of 4
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Oct 2017
    Posts
    2

    Default Restraining Orders After Divorce

    My question involves a marriage in the state of: California.

    I dont really know how to start my post here since It is my nightmare ever in my life, it's even worse than a nightmare: I was married for 6 yrs and have 2 boys, back to back, now they are 3 and 4. I was fulltime mom and stayed home for the boys. After the second kid, I was in postpartum depression and I have to take depression pills. There were lots of issues going wrong in my marriage and my ex husband used my health problem to against me in front of the court because he wants the kids and the house.

    One day 2 yrs ago, he put restrained order against me so that I could not come close to him , my boys and the house. We came with a divorce which was finalized everything now after 2 yrs battling back and forth. He got the best lawyer in town since he has money and I have to leave the house with nothing, homeless totally. I dont have a lawyer with me, and he won the case, the judge granted 3 yrs restrained order, will be ending in 2020. He has my 2 sons and his sister is taking care of them now. He makes my life miserable since I can not believe what he has done to me. Kicked me out of the house with nothing, took my sons away( who is my life, my everything to live for).

    Here is my question: Can he still ask the Judge for another restrained order like this after 2020? Can I get my boys back by asking for another hearing? I dont have money to hire a lawyer, Can I just do it by myself ?( The family court has the Selfhelp which helps ppl for free) . IS there any chances that I can win the boys back?

    I am working part time now and have no house, I have to live with my uncle's family now. Is that could be a problem since I dont make good salary and have no home for kids? How many % I can win the boys back due to my situation that I still have to see spychiatrist? I've been seeing doctors for almost 2 yrs, and I want to quit the treatment now Pls help Thnks so much

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Apr 2009
    Location
    Somewhere near Canada
    Posts
    35,894

    Default Re: Restraining Orders After Divorce

    Can you tell us what led up to a 3 year restraining order?

    It's probably going to make a difference in your options going forward - including the consequences of terminating treatment.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Oct 2017
    Posts
    2

    Default Re: Restraining Orders After Divorce

    we had a fight that day over the fone, he was at work and I stayed home with 2 boys, when he hung up on me, I was mad and texted him back to threaten him that I would hurt myself and 2 sons, He came straight to police and they got into my house, took me straight to mental hospital for 1 week. It was my nightmare everytime I thought about it. Pls let me know what I should do now during this 3 yrs restrain order,
    The judge let me see my sons on the alternate sunday , 3 hours at the local mall with monitor person, and he pays for the fee, I do want more days and hours with my sons, what should I do ? pls advise me
    thnks

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Posts
    671

    Default Re: Restraining Orders After Divorce

    In all honesty - he did the right thing in calling the police if you threatened suicide and harming the kids, especially w/a PPD diagnosis. I would not stop treatment unless your psych feels it is no longer necessary, and then only depending on if it was ordered by the court and the terms of that order.

    I doubt that your ex will be able to extend the RO, but that will depend greatly on whether you have been abiding by it completely.

    As for custody... I suspect Dad will retain primary physical custody, based on status quo. That does not mean, however, that you would be unable to get joint legal custody (decision making) or unsupervised/greater parenting time - although that may well depend on your doctor's input.

    Good luck.

    1. Sponsored Links
       

Similar Threads

  1. Defamation: Can You Sue Somebody for Seeking Restraining Orders
    By krinnypoo in forum Defamation, Slander And Libel
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 09-22-2013, 11:58 AM
  2. Modification: Restraining Orders During Divorce Proceedings
    By THANKGOODNESSIMFABULOUS in forum Orders of Protection
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 09-09-2013, 12:46 PM
  3. Restraining Orders in Illinois
    By Ione52 in forum Orders of Protection
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 10-15-2007, 11:22 AM
  4. Establishment: Restraining Orders to Keep an Adult Away from a Minor
    By whatever in forum Orders of Protection
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 03-20-2006, 12:24 PM
  5. Establishment: Restraining Orders for Defamation
    By all564 in forum Orders of Protection
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 02-07-2006, 07:31 AM
 
 
Sponsored Links

Legal Help, Information and Resources