I'm sorry but I think this young person has a very exaggerated idea of what constitutes abuse serious enough to be unacceptable. "Intermittent explosive disorder" is something that would need to be diagnosed by a psychiatrist, I suspect this hasn't happened, and it is sort of used as a catch all for the fact that your mother is not a nice person. She has temper tantrums.

From everything I read here, though, she is not physically abusive and unless the idea of living in foster care until you are eighteen appeals to you, I'd stay strictly away from trying to report her to child protective services. No one but no one is guaranteed stress free teenage years or nice parents. Only the most abusive and unconcerned parents, which I do not see here that your mother is anywhere near this category cause their teenagers to have to leave home under the sanctions of the court system and spend their teenage years elsewhere.