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urbanchickenmom
I'm the aunt. My mother in law has custody. The reason I'm so heavily involved is because I'm the one having to take her to all of her obgyn appointments, prenatal counseling, etc because my mil won't drive farther than our little town. We have no obgyn in town. So I have to listen to my mil and her demands during car rides, phone calls, visits, etc. My niece never ever argues with my mil so I hear her complaints through text or phone calls. The father of the baby has offered to take her to her dr visits but my mil won't allow them to be alone, so that's out of the question.
I'm just trying to keep the peace but it's getting exhausting. Tonight hearing my mil repeatedly say that the baby shouldn't be celebrated, that they need to stop acting like they are in love, that the boy is going to leave her and that she's a disgrace is really upsetting me. The mil is the one that made it clear that abortion or adoption was not an option so I'm having a hard time understanding exactly what it is that she wants.
The father of the baby and my niece both have jobs. But the grandmother is trying to talk my niece into telling the boy to give up his rights and to not put his name on the birth certificate. I told her that was the worst thing she could do because it is HIS responsibly too! He is homeschooled but also enrolled at the community college, so his homeschool schedule can be modified to fit around his work schedule.
I've also told my mother in law that if the father of the child is refused visitation of the baby that he and his parents could end up getting custody. It's that a real possibility or am I wrong?