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vadad1
My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Virginia
I'm trying to do better with this co-parenting thing as the CP...
Relevant background:
The current court order states that visitation the NCP gets scheduled visitations the first and third Thursday from 7pm to 9/9:30pm (9:30pm if no school), and this is the only fixed visitation schedule. It continues that the NCP can get additional visitations (usually weekend) provided the child is free and the NCP gives a week advance notice. It does not say anything for the CP requesting visitation, but has a clause for right of first refusal, where if the CP cannot take care of the child for 8 hours or more, then the NCP is given the option to care for the child.
I have to leave to handle personal business from August 12-23 and for that personal business, I cannot take my son along with me. The exact reason is that my mom (son's grandma) is actually hostile towards the son and would create a likely unsafe environment for both potentially (Yay sandwich generation). Anyways, I informed the NCP back in April 26 and again May 11, asking that the NCP take care of the child in this interim. The NCP if I give them the benefit of doubt wants to help as they offered August 14-24, or as early as August 13 at 11pm through August 24, but decided they will not budge on whatever plans the NCP made for August 12-13 weekend. I know it's just the weekend, because the NCP also said they can do August 7-11 and August 21-September 1 (but those were from some kind of misunderstanding).
The way I see it, the options I have are:
1) I call in a favor with one of my friends who indicated they are willing to take care of my son for the whole duration but they want nothing to do with my ex, so won't let my ex see him for any part of the duration that I'm gone.
2) As suggested by a coworker, ask if my ex has someone who I can leave our son with from August 12-August 13 11pm where my ex can then pick the child up at that point. I've sent my ex a text requesting if this is possible and waiting to hear a response.
3) I know this isn't exactly a legal question, but are there any other legal options that maybe I could do?
Full disclosure: (I admit I gave a little thought to saying yes to my ex taking him August 7-11 and then not take him back on the 11, but realize that will probably have legal consequences and even more than that would make my son feel horrible, like I abandoned or don't want him. So I'm not doing something like that) I'm currently hoping on #2 and #1 is my backup but wonder if maybe I'm not seeing another good option. Sadly, I don't have anyone who I can ask to take care of my son for that interim period.