Prohibitions against third party contact are boilerplate into the language of such orders in CA. If the ex's wife is calling you on the ex's behalf, he is violating the order. If she is taking this up on her own initiative, he is NOT violating the order. However, you are under NO obligation to allow your son to call the ex's wife, and I would suspect that it is not a good idea at this time. You can certainly relay a personal message of love and support that comes solely from the wife to your son, but anything that comes from the ex (the restrained party) would be a violation of the order.

