My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of NJ: I am 39 years old. my mom is both a high functioning alcoholic and an undiagnosed mental illness which I have known since I was a child. She has started doing the same verbal abusive things to my sister who is 17 years old. We live in NJ. She is a really good kid and she is breaking her spirit. She recently left my mom's house and came to stay with me for a few days because she couldn't handle it any more. My mom broke into my home. Stole my truck keys and came back the next day and tried to steal my truck if I did not return her daughter. She was in fact staying with a friend for the night as I was at work and to afraid to leave her alone. She turns 18 years old in November but the mental and emotional abuse that my mom can inflict on you is so much to deal with. I had intended to leave due to a job opportunity but have considered changing my plans to care for her during her last year of high school as to not up root her. My sister is now home and my mom is being more horrible then ever.
Is there anything I can do?
I am willing to care for her full time and resume all responsibility for her care. My husband and I work full time and have good jobs. We r willing to get a lawyer if need be but I was told that by the time I got into court she would be 18. Can anyone help me. I was told by a social worker since all her needs are being met (food, shelter, and school) that there is nothing I can do. I remember feeling so helpless when I was young until both my sister and I were kicked out and forced to live with relatives. My mom likes the control and she does not process rational thinking when she is mad. I really am at a loss.

