My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Texas
My husband owes roughly $20k in back child support payments, with an additional $10k in interest. He had two children with his previous wife when they were very young. Both kids are adults now.
He fell behind nearly a decade ago after his first heart attack. Since then, he has had two more major attacks, and dozens of individual surgeries for blockages and stint placements. Once he fell behind, 50% of his income was deducted from his paychecks. Unfortunately, he never had anything modified when he was without work. He was under the impression that he would have to go to court to do so, and he had been told in the past that only the custodial parent could request a hearing. So for the last several years, he's been making less than minimum wage and put out of pocket costs for his medications eat up almost everything he makes. He lost his last job after another hospitalization and now he's taking classes and working towards a degree to try and improve his situation. And now I have an opportunity to move overseas for a PhD program, but he wouldn't be able to come because the arrears prevent him from getting a passport.
He contacted his ex last year to try and work out a settlement so that the interest would stop accumulating and he could get out from under this. She said she wouldn't settle and to not ever message her again.
If we sell everything, max out my credit cards, and apply for a loan we could MAYBE come up with 5-7k for a lump sum, but if she doesn't agree to less then is there really not anything we can do? She's never called for an enforcement, and she's never been on any additional aid. Her and her husband make good money and apparently she has no interest in collecting money. She just seems to be bitter about their marriage that ended 15 years ago.
Everything I've read has said that the custodial parent has all the power. I just can't believe that there's nothing we can do to fix this. Now we are going to miss an amazing opportunity that might actually help us out of poverty.