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TheSplashsky
Of course not, and I'm biased, yes.
I know this isn't a forum to discuss personal views on and I get that, but for the purposes of an intellectual response I want to give a little bit of background. I don't believe I'm that important and honestly don't care if you read it or not, I just figure that a senior member of this forum would have some pretty interesting and intellectual views on things.
I respect the guardian's position. It's an important one. Designed to rear and grow the next generation based on that particular guardian's experiences. It creates character and individuality and teaches lessons to the next generation that might not otherwise be taught by society at large. I definitely understand the importance of making laws that govern minors; their brains aren't full developed and their ability to make calculated, appropriate decisions is undeniably hindered by their lack of experience. Been there, done that.
The only stink/complaint I have to raise is how inflexible some parents/guardians are, and how little the law cares for what might actually be better for somebody. Another half year/year of living somewhere that makes her, to a very large extent, miserable? Sounds great! Would definitely pick that over a fiancé with a stable income and a far more loving home! Why is that not enough of a case to make to a judge who should be more interested in making decisions on a case-by-case basis rather than blanketing everything with laws that are downright and indubitably suffocating rules and regulations that really do seem arbitrary?
I stress this only because it's been frustrating... highly frustrating... up to this point having to deal with a seemingly bipolar and seemingly rather mental old woman who judges me based on her past experiences with apparently, seemingly crappy men. If you want to talk about biased, then how about that person, mm? Biased only by her own experiences and seeming selfishness rather than what might actually make her charge happy and live a more fulfilling life. I'm not even against the guardian personally, I just want her to perhaps be a bit more flexible... but this said guardian is seemingly a two-faced liar and has manipulated this situation since the beginning.
I don't expect pity or sympathy and honestly I don't even need empathy. I just wanted to know if - and yes, it's terribly, terribly written from what I've read thus far - there was any way for me to have the law behind me while I try to make my fiance's life better while also respecting the presupposed and undeserved authority of her guardian.
I respect your opinion, I do, and I'd love to hear a more personal and perhaps empathetic response... if you're willing.