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flyingron
Having sole custody isn't the same as the other parent's rights being terminated completely. Just because he is deported doesn't remove his rights. Normally, if you can't have the other parent join in the action, you serve them or if that's not possible follow the publication requiements. Massachusetts do allow judge to waive the publication requirement for good cause (this sounds like a case where it's probably pointless). You should have an attorney assist you in drafting the peitition, order, and motions for waiving publication or making sure that if publiation is required it is done properly.
Then during the hearing, since you don't have consent of the ohter parent, you'll have to make a case that this is in the best interests of the child. Again, an attorney can help you with that argument. Not getting support from the father is *NOT* a reason.