
Quoting
cdwjava
To make the arrest for violating the protection order, she would essentially have to be on scene. They are not going to call in SWAT and the detective bureau to hunt down a whacked out woman threatening to kill you. It could well be that these assorted allegations are all misdemeanors which could make an arrest unlikely unless or until a court issues a warrant. I suspect they have taken a report of any court order violations, but that does not mean they can instantly file for a warrant. Seeking a warrant through a prosecutors office can be short, or lengthy, depending on the process in place in your county and the severity of the offenses alleged. Out here, if you walk it through, it can be done in a day. Normally, in the larger counties, you're talking about a month or so. In the small and medium ones, maybe a week or two. In any event, tracking the suspect down and slapping her in cuffs is not likely.
If you are truly fearful for your life, then take the necessary steps to protect yourself. But, ask yourself: Does she have the means to carry out her threat? Does she own any firearms? Does she have access to lots of money? Does she run in circles surrounded by violent people who might kill for money? Hiring a "hit man" is not as easy as putting an ad in Craigslist, and aside from TV it's not something that tends to happen much in real life.
If she fails to show for the court hearing on the order, then it should be granted. It's also possible that the court may be compelled to issue a warrant for her arrest for the previous violations, though I suspect that violations are handled in a different court than the one you will be attending.
As for her being pregnant, there's not much you can do about that, so there is no custody issue until after the child is born. At that time, you can file for paternity. In the meantime, perhaps you should consult a Family Law attorney who can tell you what your options might be if you believe she is carrying your child.