My question involves a marriage in the state of: Staten Island, NY
I just some comments and a woman was stating that the system is unfair. I absolutely sympathize with her and decided to share and/or ask your opinion about my situation.
I've been married for 5 years. I had a house (my premarital asset) for 7 years before my ex moved in. We have 2 kids. My ex was staying home parent and I was the only supporting the household. I work for the same company for 17 years now but despite the tiny yearly raises the financials were getting worst. My ex decided to change her life around. On November 16 2014 she called Police and I got arrested for domestic violence (we argued but I didn't even touch her). Since then I have not been permitted in to my own house. Soon after she put garnish on my salary for child support which gets deducted automatically every payday for over 2 years now. Despite her living in my house cost free, I continued to pay mortgage, all bills, car loan that she drove, early in 2015 she asked the court that she has no means to live and the court awarded her with temporary alimony while divorce case was pending.
The total she received was over 2k per month living free and driving free. She decided to go to school for the whole 2015/2016 school year what supposed to increase her skills and future earnings. Due to the fact she didn't make any money (officially) I was ordered to pay 100% day care costs of our 2 children. I'll just mention that I also had to pay 100% for her private attorney (8K total) even at the time I could not afford my own and represented myself. Since the removal from my own house I sleep on my moms couch in one bedroom basement apartment. This is also a place where my kids spend with me EVERY weekend. The agreement was every other weekend but my ex claims that she work every Saturday so my children stay with me every alternate whole weekend and every alternate Saturday. So finally we signed divorce in June 2016. She was awarded by court 5K toward increase in value of my house during our marriage. Then I agreed to pay 3k for the "moving" expenses and also agreed to withdraw and give her the portion of my retirement plan in amount of 10k.
By the agreement she supposed to move out on or before August 1st 2016 and I agreed to pay her alimony for another 9 month in amount of $1200 per month. Now, as agreed I gave her 18K cash. She didn't move out until today - 4/21/2017. Of course I went right after to the court for eviction. What court did, since the initial motion in November 2016 my case gets postpone and postpone. The court even order me to pay the alimony I supposed to pay AFTER she moves out. So I continue to live on my moms couch, pay $1250 per month child support, $800 alimony, $2000 for my house mortgage and I'm left with $200 to support myself. She claims at the court she works 12hr a day so babysitter pickup kids and stay with them until my ex comes from work very late at night but she only makes $150 a week because she is new or something so I'm ordered to pay 85% baby sitter costs. And I almost forgot the best part, a couple of weeks ago her boyfriend moved in and they all live free in my house while I have to support my children and myself for a month of $200
Now, you tell me what you think about the "system"
I'm going back to the court on May 1st. I'll keep you posted![]()

