To try to make a long story short- because I am not the story, I married a charismatic foreigner. He moved in as a roommate and with in 2 weeks started making the moves. Charming, attentive all that stuff, we got along quite well. Come to find out his visitors visa was expiring and 2 months later he started on the serious get married mode. I didn’t go along with it and as the months passed it turned to a religious plea. About 6 months later I married him and things went along fine for the 1st year or so until his brother arrived. Come to find out he had his brother marry a woman who visited him overseas- and she was my husbands 2nd choice if I didn’t say yes.
His brother’s marriage turned into the shame it was quickly, as mine started to follow suit. She filed for divorced about 1 year after his entry. They never even lived together in that year he was in America. TMy husband had already been working on setting him up with a new wife through the internet early on. Little did I know in hindsight I suspect my husband was looking for himself, I am pretty sure he did when I found IM names not mentionuing he was married and had pictures of him. Our relationship became one of more emotional abuse, my husband and his brother wouldn’t respect my request that he and his friends speak English when they visited because they could, announcing he was going to his home country for 3 full months verses the 2-4weeks I suggested, and thought was reasonable, when his family/friends from abroad came to visit he didn’t want me there, to the point he didn’t even want me to tell my family and friends we were even married. At 1st he wanted to he said, but I wanted to wait until my family got to know him betterl due to our age difference, 3 months later when I was ready he said no. I know total craziness which I put up with thinking time could change it. After 2 ½ years I couldn’t stand it and kept asking both of them to move out but they wouldn’t. I didn’t hate my husband but thought this is not right you two need to leave.
Now that brings me to what I need advice with. The women came and went until finally they had found his brother a new American wife to marry just as the 1st wife’s divorce papers had become permanent about 2 years to the day of his brother’s 1st American marriage. I had strong doubts, she was nice, religious, smart, personable etc, still again they were both very charismatic and I started to have strong doubts about them. The 2nd wife told him she wouldn't marry someone who needs a green card, I have kids etc, they got married in their church and he was even asked if he was ever married before which he denied. This went ok for them, for a short time. In the meantime since the brother married and it took almost another year for my husband to move out and for us to get the divorce papers filed. We were ‘technically’ married 4.5 years at that point.
To fill in- 2 months ago my husband went back home over seas alone. 2.5 months ago when he came back, I received INS papers asking for him to come in for an interview- I don’t think he ever told them he moved out from here because he kept calling to ask if any mail came. And 4.5 months since our divorce my husband has since married an American again after saying he'd only marry a women of his religion from that part of world again. I feel sorry for the woman she'll be divorced in 2-3 years- just being truthful.
Back to the advice part- it was 3 months ago the problems started with his brother’s 2nd wife. Once he got his green card, he has been physically and verbally abusive to the point of what she feels has been physically rape and has asked members of her church to come confront him and get the house keys from him. Both brothers now threaten her house can be taken away from her and she can’t talk to me or she will be harmed (I haven't heard from her in a almost a year). It has been less than 1 year since the brother married her, and come to find out the brother also has a wife in overseas that he is still married to since 2001, I also have a vague recollection of something screwy like that but had been told he got divorced, yet the apers she saw said it's still valid.
Is there any help I can offer the brother’s 2nd American wife? I think the whole thing was/is such a scam to get them both here. They seem to be but they really are not nice legitimte people, and it’s not right to continue. I know my chance to stop this craziness was lost when I signed my divorce papers.
The Brother on the otherhand… His wife did get a lawyer but how can I help her put an end to the craziness… I am sure he is currently looking for his 3rd American wife now to secure his position in staying here. Now that she is being threatened I feel I need to try to help her- what are you suggestions if any? Can my knowledge be of any use to her?
Thanks

