I was charged with child abuse and need some good input. I spanked my gf's kid on the butt with a paddle. He has alot of problems with self control. I was using the corner as the start of discipline then that was not working so we went for exercises. He decided he needed and excuse to get out of it so told me he had to use the bathroom. I went with him to make sure he don't goto sleep while he is being punished otherwise he won't wake up tell the next day. He lied about having to use the bathroom so he was paddled with pants on the butt. Then was told to continue to do exercises tell I was satisfied he is done. (less than 5 min) Told me he had to use bathroom again so we went and he lied again.
He was then paddled with pants down to his knees. He was paddled and he anticipated the hit and ended up hitting the back of his legs. I told him he would have to get into proper position and do it again. So he got 5 or 6 total hits. (start of first lie and the second) The next day he had bruises on his ass and back of legs. The mother acknowleged that I need to be more careful. I stated I can't do that anymore and she would need to take control of him being out of control. He has problems 3 of the 5 days in school every week which are written from his teacher in his planner. He was being punished for hitting his head on the table at school with his head causing some redness.
He went to school and told the teacher he couldnt sit down. CPs came to school and took him to a DR that works for them! Dr stated bruises are consistant with child abuse. I was called by my GF and we got together and went to this office. I was placed under arrest after I refused to go further than telling them he making problems and was paddled and jumped out of the way and hit his legs.
They generated false statements and said that I just jumped up and started beating this child. These are some additional false statement's they have made.
1 This is not the first time this has happened.
2 Dad says shut up and bad words and asshole.
I am missing some paper work but have other statements from them about there investigation. They made it sound like I just beat the kid and used no other methods. The mother is against this CPS agency and is understanding of the whole situation. I already paid this attorney 5k cash upfront. He never returns calls and is always unavailable. I always have to wait for phone interview about 3 weeks away. In the begining this attorney told me it was only one time and no history of this abuse. He thought it would be dropped. The state wanted guilty plea and 6 months confiment. I started to see a mental health counselor because of all the stress. I had to live in a van at walmart parking lot for about a month. I was allowed to see kids with supervised visits only. The kids then went to chicago for spring break and were never returned.
Anyone have any expertise in this area? I took a adjudication withdraw but I was told it can only be sealed if anything not expunged! And get 2 years supervised probation. I do not believe the punishment fits any crime. I only paddled him on the butt they claim I gave him bruises on head and back and legs. I am only responsible for legs and butt! Thanks for your time. Jay

