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where I was low income at the time and the state paid for her preschool. They made me go to the child support office and file as proof we weren't together.
Unless the state actually found him and served him paternity was not established.

You really need a consult with a local adoption attorney. Its possible that the abandonment statutes in your state would allow your husband to adopt without actually having to find the biological father. You need an adoption attorney anyway as stepparent adoption is not a DIY project at all.