So, you have a couple of anecdotal stories. Sorry, but that does not make you all knowledgeable on DV and the related issues.Quoting dvcaselaw
When I was growing up the expectation was that a woman would slap a man who got "fresh" or otherwise out of line with them. The man was expected to take it. That was life. However, far too many men (yes, it is overwhelmingly men that are abusers) do more than abuse their significant others, they dominate them to the point where many will risk jail themselves for perjury or a confession to a false report rather than risk the ire of their man!
There are some very telling tomes available on the subject. Check out your local library and you might be able to find a few.
If you were to say it was skewed toward the woman in the area of child custody and support, I'd tend to agree. But, in other areas, I'd say the law has tried to walk a delicate balancing act between the rights of the defendant and protecting the victim(s) of domestic violence. Sadly, recent case law has only made it tougher to make a case against an abuser when the victim goes sideways and recants or refuses to cooperate. In those instances we can almost guarantee repeat calls to the same couple ... only next time, the damage will be greater.Society is skewed towards women right now in terms of family law. Way skewed. Especially in liberal areas.
I can cite curdling stories of domestic violence including a small number where the woman WAS making it up to get the man in trouble. Of course, a SMART guy gets out when that happens ... unfortunately, too many guys stick it out and end up getting snagged in the web of lies a couple of times before it can get sorted out.
- Carl

