I live in New York and I would like to change my daughters last name. She is 4 years old, and her father has never really been part of her life. I never married her bio father and hes not on the birth certificate nor did he sign the paternity papers when she was born, and she has never had her bio father's last name. I never stayed with her father because he was abusive and he threatened to kill me and my daughter when i was pregnant. After I had my daughter he threatened to kill me and take her away from me. I had then got a restraining order against him. When we went to court I got sole custody and visitation as I say supervised with my mom at her house. I have been with my husband since she was 6 months old and she calls him daddy. We now have 2 other children that are starting school with her this September and we want to change her name so they feel like the family they are. He wont agree unless I let him take her unsupervised whenever he wants. I never want that to happen, he's not trusted with her. Every lawyer I talk to says that its not possible. What can I do to make her have the same last name as her family?![]()

