I am having a difficult time trying to find a specific answer for what I need. I am pregnant. I live in NY. I want to file for custody when the baby is born. I understand that therei s legal custody, physical custody, and joint custody. What I am looking for is to be the sole caregiver for the baby but have the father have visitation rights. I do not want it to be joint custody though because then he'll have shared decision making repsonsibilities, which in a short way of putting it-I don't want.
I want him to be able to see his child and when the baby is old enough, to go over to his home-but when the baby is first born I do not want the baby going over there. Due to breast feeding and whatnot, I think maybe I'm alright in that aspect. The baby will have my last name as well.
I made a mistake-although my baby is not a mistake, but a miracle. I only dated this guy for 2 months and he's overly emotional. He has not been to any dr's appointments with me, we do not live together and he has not bought one thing in preparation for the baby.
Can you tell me exactly what I want to file for? I'm so stressed out thinking about this when the baby is due soon. It's difficult to have him decide what color he likes better, much less make decisions about a child.
I live in NY, if that helps any.
Thank you very much to anyone who can answer this for me.
God Bless-

