What Does a Court Do With Banking Information Provided for Child Support

[mmmagique]

Why do you get to decide where she spends the money you "give her" for child support? A gift card to Walmart would not be helpful to me or to my children at all. Money, on the other hand, can go towards doctors visits (co-pays) the insurance I pay every month, clothes, (not Walmart clothes, but decent clothes) food, etc. Not everyone wants to be told where to spend the money that is (or should be, if you were honest with the courts) rightfully hers.

[jumanji]

So your son is 6, going on 7. How much CS do you pay?

[kingbee]

$300

you missed too much. thats not what the situation is. the gift card was specifically for food shopping in addition to other monies

[jumanji]

$300

Per month?

[kingbee]

yes

[jk]

yes

And you're bitching about how much you pay? You should be ashamed of yourself. $70 per week. What a joke you are oh big spender.

[Dogmatique]

if they have a problem with me addressing what they're saying without name-calling, then i'm glad im not them. i called no names & replied to their disrespect with facts. people telling me 'i have issues' and calling me names i wont repeat.....they shouldnt be a part of a forum like this because they are making it personal. and it makes a person look worse by ASSuming what a situation is without a full story.

i appreciate your response and that's what i will do. i dont have extra 'income' but i do, at times, make more but it's nothing consistent. on the other hand, i do pay the bulk of my son's expenses in addition to support because it's what i want to do.

in my humble opinion, there should be more checks and balances in regards to child support. there are women out there who are not doing the right thing when it comes to the money they receive. im speaking from what i actually know....not opinion. it's not always the father who is the villain.

thank you for your time. happy new year

Correct. In this particular case however, you're it.

You're welcome.

And you're bitching about how much you pay? You should be ashamed of yourself. $70 per week. What a joke you are oh big spender.

That's not the only reason he's a joke. His child is going to turn his back as soon as he is no longer obligated to acknowledge his existence.

[jumanji]

Well..... I don't know where in NY you live, but my daughter and her fiance live in the sticks of CNY. 2 BR (needed for when they have his son) apartment runs them 850/mo. Utilities not included. So, utilities, food, cars/insurance/maintenance, health insurance all on top of that. He also pay CS for his 6yo, and they provide what the kiddo needs on top. $300/mo isn't even half of what they would need if they were to have custody.

I really think you're being a bit myopic in your beliefs/expectations.

I got significantly more than $300/mo from my ex, and it all went to the kids (2). As did almost all of what I made. My "big" purchases for myself? 3 pack of underwear from the supermarket.

[AmericanDadof5]

Well..... I don't know where in NY you live, but my daughter and her fiance live in the sticks of CNY. 2 BR (needed for when they have his son) apartment runs them 850/mo. Utilities not included. So, utilities, food, cars/insurance/maintenance, health insurance all on top of that. He also pay CS for his 6yo, and they provide what the kiddo needs on top. $300/mo isn't even half of what they would need if they were to have custody.

I really think you're being a bit myopic in your beliefs/expectations.

I got significantly more than $300/mo from my ex, and it all went to the kids (2). As did almost all of what I made. My "big" purchases for myself? 3 pack of underwear from the supermarket.

Dads aren't the only ones that don't understand this. For me, mom's reason for not giving me money in the beginning was so that I "don't spend it on another bitch". From that point I said, "fine" but it'll come back on her one day. After we split, she gave a $50 to $100 for a few sporadic months but once I started dating again, I all of sudden didn't need her money so it would have been extra

[mmmagique]

Dads aren't the only ones that don't understand this. For me, mom's reason for not giving me money in the beginning was so that I "don't spend it on another bitch". From that point I said, "fine" but it'll come back on her one day. After we split, she gave a $50 to $100 for a few sporadic months but once I started dating again, I all of sudden didn't need her money so it would have been extra

No. Any parent that is raising the child(ren) needs actual money to help raise the kids. The other parent needs to let go of the control they *used* to have. It's no longer their say how the other parent uses the money given to raise their kids.