What Does a Court Do With Banking Information Provided for Child Support

[jumanji]

How much CS do you pay/month? And how old is the child?

[llworking]

a woman....lol....should've known. i dont have to stoop down to your level with name calling.

BELIEVE U ME.....she doesnt pay NEARLY as much as i do first of all. and 2nd of all, when she shows me a SEPARATE utility bill just for him, then i'll shut up. AND YES...it is b.s. that u tell me he has utilities. AGAIN....u only have heat, lights, & water because he lives there??? i doubt it!

my son is 6 and has mutual funds, a 529 account and 5 figures in the bank FROM ME! and like i said, i pay for almost everything he needs. I'M A FATHER...NOT A SPERM DONOR/PART TIME PARENT. i live 700 miles away from my son and still see him more than once a month whether i get there by train, car, or bus. and i'm involved in his school activities.

and on top of all of that 'miss know it all'.....i have given her extra money so YES...IT IS GREED. i am that needle in a haystack when it comes to a father on child support.

she is irrelevant to me....if she got money under the table and did nothing extra to help, then karma will visit her and thats that. karma will never come for me because I'M SELF-LESS so i'm blessed. i was homeless and still providing for my son at one time. HE...has always come first and will always come first. i have to pay....so does she. PERIOD.

Dude, you honestly have no grasp of reality. When I lived in my house alone, my utilities added up to one amount. When my daughter and two grandchildren moved back into the house, my utilities tripled.

If I did not own my house, I would likely have lived in a 1 bedroom apartment. If I had children to house, I would have a 2, 3 or 4 bedroom rental.

I could feed myself, and feed myself well for 50.00 a week. That has at least tripled. And that doesn't begin to talk about paper products, hygiene products, cleaning products, laundry products.

If you actually believe that it does not cost far more to house children than just an adult, then you are living in a resentful form of fantasyland.

[qwaspolk69]

a woman....lol....should've known. i dont have to stoop down to your level with name calling.

BELIEVE U ME.....she doesnt pay NEARLY as much as i do first of all. and 2nd of all, when she shows me a SEPARATE utility bill just for him, then i'll shut up. AND YES...it is b.s. that u tell me he has utilities. AGAIN....u only have heat, lights, & water because he lives there??? i doubt it!

my son is 6 and has mutual funds, a 529 account and 5 figures in the bank FROM ME! and like i said, i pay for almost everything he needs. I'M A FATHER...NOT A SPERM DONOR/PART TIME PARENT. i live 700 miles away from my son and still see him more than once a month whether i get there by train, car, or bus. and i'm involved in his school activities.

and on top of all of that 'miss know it all'.....i have given her extra money so YES...IT IS GREED. i am that needle in a haystack when it comes to a father on child support.

she is irrelevant to me....if she got money under the table and did nothing extra to help, then karma will visit her and thats that. karma will never come for me because I'M SELF-LESS so i'm blessed. i was homeless and still providing for my son at one time. HE...has always come first and will always come first. i have to pay....so does she. PERIOD.

You just don't get it do you? You sound like a sexist, misogynistic pig and I hope your son doesn't end up like you.

She has to PAY THESE BILLS TO TAKE CARE OF HIM!!! It's not that she has extra utilities because she has a kid. So you expect her to not pay the bills and they get their water, heat, electricity shut off? Are you mentally challenged or something?

Yes you are the father - so you have to pay your share. THAT IS WHAT CHILD SUPPORT IS USED FOR!! You pay for "almost" everything. I guarantee your ex pays for things on a daily basis while he's with her. Good for you that you're involved. That doesn't get a pat on the back or a trophy that's what you're supposed to do.

She is paying. You can't sit there and say she doesn't pay for things. She obviously has to and if you gave her extra that's YOUR choice. Anything you give her that doesn't go through the state is A GIFT! I used to pay my ex husband's child support and at first, it went to her. I told him that was stupid. That didn't count. He didn't listen. As long as it shut her up. I don't like her but I see why she gets frustrated with him after I was with him for four years.

You're a disgusting pos. That's the bottomline. I guarantee we aren't getting the entire story.

Here's the bottomline to your question: If the court finds out about your "under the table" bullshit they will take that into account for your child support and you can possibly get in trouble for lying about your finances.

Child support isn't there just for divorced couples. It's there to help support the child. Whether you like it or not.

I'm sure you're emotional right now, to have your intentions checked by someone on the web, but speaking this way to the seniors will get you nowhere in terms of advice.

Some of the answers you get here may not be as objective as you'd like but what do you expect? Some speculation will happen and you just gotta roll with it, or don't respond.

As far as I understand it family courts are about equity, so simply because you make more doesn't necessarily mean she'll get more. If she requests it, then you object to it, have your day in court

If he's lying about his finances and the court finds out, she might get an increase.

Dude, you honestly have no grasp of reality. When I lived in my house alone, my utilities added up to one amount. When my daughter and two grandchildren moved back into the house, my utilities tripled.

If I did not own my house, I would likely have lived in a 1 bedroom apartment. If I had children to house, I would have a 2, 3 or 4 bedroom rental.

I could feed myself, and feed myself well for 50.00 a week. That has at least tripled. And that doesn't begin to talk about paper products, hygiene products, cleaning products, laundry products.

If you actually believe that it does not cost far more to house children than just an adult, then you are living in a resentful form of fantasyland.

^^^^^ THIS.

[kingbee]

if they have a problem with me addressing what they're saying without name-calling, then i'm glad im not them. i called no names & replied to their disrespect with facts. people telling me 'i have issues' and calling me names i wont repeat.....they shouldnt be a part of a forum like this because they are making it personal. and it makes a person look worse by ASSuming what a situation is without a full story.

i appreciate your response and that's what i will do. i dont have extra 'income' but i do, at times, make more but it's nothing consistent. on the other hand, i do pay the bulk of my son's expenses in addition to support because it's what i want to do.

in my humble opinion, there should be more checks and balances in regards to child support. there are women out there who are not doing the right thing when it comes to the money they receive. im speaking from what i actually know....not opinion. it's not always the father who is the villain.

thank you for your time. happy new year

[llworking]

if they have a problem with me addressing what they're saying without name-calling, then i'm glad im not them. i called no names & replied to their disrespect with facts. people telling me 'i have issues' and calling me names i wont repeat.....they shouldnt be a part of a forum like this because they are making it personal. and it makes a person look worse by ASSuming what a situation is without a full story.

i appreciate your response and that's what i will do. i dont have extra 'income' but i do, at times, make more but it's nothing consistent. on the other hand, i do pay the bulk of my son's expenses in addition to support because it's what i want to do.

in my humble opinion, there should be more checks and balances in regards to child support. there are women out there who are not doing the right thing when it comes to the money they receive. im speaking from what i actually know....not opinion. it's not always the father who is the villain.

thank you for your time. happy new year

I was not calling names. I was pointing how far from reality your opinion is. If a child is adequately housed, clothed and fed, then the child support is being spent properly.

Brad Pitt is rich. Angelina Jolie is also rich. Do you think that Brad Pitt should not share in the support of his children just because Angelina happens to be rich and therefore could afford to support the children without any assistance? If you answer yes to that question, then you truly do not get it at all.

[kingbee]

100% feasible and i agree. but you're adding 1 child into a house that you already have. and let me go as far as to tell you more of my business. not only do i give her extra money, pay my child support & all of his expenses. when she first put me on child support, i was giving her $150 gift card for wal-mart every other week to go shopping. now, how much more do i have to do ABOVE & BEYOND?

as i have said before, she has financial responsibility as well.

Nobody in this forum can tell me im trying to avoid anything or living in a fantasy world. this woman even stooped to the level of only buying him a pack of hot wheels cars($5.99) for christmas because she believes i should buy all of his gifts!

[jk]

Truth be told, what happens to the money you pay is none of your business. That's not how child support works.

Your money helps pay for utilities, housing, food, gas for the car, and myriad other expenses that your child benefits from.

If she buys fur coats, Coach handbags, and the fancy shoe of
the day is just none of your business. The state calculates child support based on both parents incomes and the time the child spends with each parent. You earn more, you pay more.

you have proved yourself a criminal and a weasel. It's obvious you don't have what it takes to be a father other than the ability to procreate

[kingbee]

when did i say i shouldnt share in the assistance? i OVERDO because i respect the fact that she has to take care of my son most of the time.

but she does not want assistance....she wants the cash in her hand. when im paying for all of his expenses PLUS giving you a gift card for food shopping, and giving you extra money every month(have given her between $100-$300 extra monthly)....what is your complaint?

her response to the gift card was......'i dont need your handouts. this isnt a soup kitchen.!' now i know what your agenda is because when i tell women i know she said that, they laugh & tell me she's crazy. she doesnt want 'assistance'. she wants CASH.....thats greed to me. im sorry.

[jk]

Then stop buying extra. Pay the child support, based on your actual income and stop there. You can buy all the toys and clothes and whatever and keep
them at your house.

That way there is nothing she can do to demand more support.

[kingbee]

you sound like a teenager. no need for me to respond to u. my son has a portfolio and im proud of that because i didnt have any investments until i was almost 38.

on top of that.....let me tell u about a FATHER which i am. like many, i lost my job after the recession in '08. my son was born in '10. in '11, it was over & i had to move out. couldn't hold myself up with odd jobs and was HOMELESS...literally sleeping where i could outside. yet, i managed to see my son every single day, and never took a dime out of his bank account for myself. now im doing better but instead of me buying a car, moving into an apartment of my own and spending money on me, i moved back in with my mother to wait and in the meantime i take most of what i make and put into 1 of several mutual funds, his 529 plan, cd's and bonds for him so i can make sure i give him a solid foundation JUST IN CASE.....so he can have somewhat of a headstart in the future if im not around. FATHER!

well i do keep his toys with me but i do make sure he has clothing wise with her as well.

after this action, i'll agree to an increase because i know she'll throw that in my face in court. after this court date and an increase, there will be no more favors from me. just what the court orders and that's it.