You say that you received the ticket. Do you mean that your wife received it? If it's not in your name, it should have been addressed to her.
If the ticket is in your wife's name, she can dispute the ticket and try to avoid identifying you -- but nobody here is going to be able to promise you that the ticket won't end up simply being reissued under your name. If your wife goes to a in-person hearing, she can expect to be asked who appears in the photograph / video.

