You mention a relationship with the person who is prohibited from contacting you and your family. I’m going to guess that it is a romantic relationship (and thus one of the reasons why your wife is ticked off about it). Those kinds of situations almost always lead to all kinds of drama, and you drag the police and courts into it, there is a chance of someone ending up in jail. Here if you you or your wife end up having contact with that other woman, that other woman can indeed end up facing a charge of violating the order and perhaps going to jail. If you want to get removed from being a protected person under the order, see an attorney about filing the appropriate motion in court to do that.
You will want to think about what really most matters to you: your relationship with your wife or your relationship with this other woman and then take steps to be with one or the other, but trying to maintain a relationship with both may well end up ruining it all the way around for you.

