i have filed and he has been served back in 2012, i just have not turned in the proof of service. Can i still turn it in and go from their or just file for step parent adoption. He hasn't looked for my son in any way. ive tried over and over and he says he will look for him see him etc but never does so i feel like i shouldn't beg someone to be in my sons life if he doesn't want to . what do you recommend?