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    My question involves paternity law for the State of:all

    i am asking this as all over this site mothers and women all give the same answer to unmarried fathers why they do not have rights to their children without going to court now i get that they have to establish paternity but why do they still get told they should have married the mother but here is the thing i do not get why should the mother get child surpport from the father without marriage as i could just say if you want the benefit of child surpport you should have married the father but the law dose not do that do they so i as why

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    Why do you believe that the child is not entitled to support from his or her father?

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    it is not that i was asking why should mothers get everything like automatic custody and rights without going to court but the father has too as he was not married to the mother so the way i see it the mother should only get child surpport if she was married the father

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    Again, why should the child be denied the support of it's co-creator?

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    cuz the mother did not married the father that is why

    think of it this way the father has to get married to have any rights or say over his child right so for him to get the Benefits of Marriage he has to get married right but the mother does not she can have all her right plus money from the father without getting married so she can get the Benefits of Marriage without marriage

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    Child support is for the child. It's not a "benefit of marriage."

    The child needs food, clothing and shelter, whether the parents were married or not.

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    cuz the mother did not married the father that is why

    think of it this way the father has to get married to have any rights or say over his child right so for him to get the Benefits of Marriage he has to get married right but the mother does not she can have all her right plus money from the father without getting married so she can get the Benefits of Marriage without marriage
    The father of the child has the same rights and obligations with respect to the child regardless of whether the father is married to the mother. The only difference between the two, as I pointed out earlier, is that when the man is married to the mother at the time the child is born he is presumed the father so he doesn’t have to do anything else for the law to recognize him as the father. But when the mother is unmarried, there is no way to know who the father is without some extra step being taken to determine who the father is. So, in that situation either the parents do a voluntary acknowledgement of paternity or they resolve paternity in court.

    Your premise that a man has to be married to the mother to have “any rights or say over his child” is simply wrong. The father must, of course, be recognized under the law as the father to have those rights — we don't give just any guy who comes along rights to children. And I’ve already explained how the man goes about getting recognized as the father. On the flip side, until a man is legally recognized as the father he has no obligation of support and the mother cannot force any support payments out of him. Married or unmarried, the basic process is the same: you do what the law requires to establish a man as the legal father and then from there that father has all the legal rights and obligations of a father. I don’t know what you have been reading, but it sounds like you misunderstand how things work.

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    cuz the mother did not married the father that is why

    think of it this way the father has to get married to have any rights or say over his child right so for him to get the Benefits of Marriage he has to get married right but the mother does not she can have all her right plus money from the father without getting married so she can get the Benefits of Marriage without marriage
    Again, both of them have to go to court...dad to get his rights as a father, mother to establish child support. Child support is no more automatic for mom than parental rights are automatic for dad.

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    My question involves paternity law for the State of:all

    i am asking this as all over this site mothers and women all give the same answer to unmarried fathers why they do not have rights to their children without going to court now i get that they have to establish paternity but why do they still get told they should have married the mother but here is the thing i do not get why should the mother get child surpport from the father without marriage as i could just say if you want the benefit of child surpport you should have married the father but the law dose not do that do they so i as why
    In general, when a man is married to the mother of a child at the time the child is born the law presumes the husband to be the father. Because of that presumption, the husband has all the rights of being a parent from the moment the child is born. He need not do anything else. It also means that he has the obligation to support the child from the moment the child is born as well. It’s a package deal, as it were. If the husband thinks he is not the father, he would have to take timely action to dispute his paternity and disestablish himself as the father.

    When a woman who is not married gives birth, there is no legal presumption of who the father is. We know who the mother is, of course, because she gave birth. So at birth, there is a legal mother to the child but no legal father. That is why at birth the unmarried mother starts with all the rights to the child and all the obligation to support the child, too. In order for any man to end up as the legal father of that child, one of two things typically must happen:
    1. The mother and the putative father voluntarily name the man as the father of the child on an acknowledgement of paternity form or on the birth certificate (exactly how the acknowledgement is done varies a bit from state to state) or
    2. The mother or the putative father files a petition in court to get a court judgment establishing the man as the legal father of the child.
    Once one of those two things are done, then the man is the legal father to the child and has all the rights and all the obligations of a father, including the obligation of support.

    Of course, regardless of how the man becomes the legal father, if the parents cannot agree on issues of custody, visitation, or support then they’ll end up having to go to court to have a court decide those issues.

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    My question involves paternity law for the State of:all

    i am asking this as all over this site mothers and women all give the same answer to unmarried fathers why they do not have rights to their children without going to court now i get that they have to establish paternity but why do they still get told they should have married the mother but here is the thing i do not get why should the mother get child surpport from the father without marriage as i could just say if you want the benefit of child surpport you should have married the father but the law dose not do that do they so i as why
    YOu are kidding, right? We know from whom the child is removed. We do NOT know who is responsible for the sperm. Simple biology. Once paternity is established, the father MUST support the child. If a father wants custody, he needs to file immediately and prove his case.

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    cuz the mother did not married the father that is why

    think of it this way the father has to get married to have any rights or say over his child right so for him to get the Benefits of Marriage he has to get married right but the mother does not she can have all her right plus money from the father without getting married so she can get the Benefits of Marriage without marriage
    That is not true. If not married, there is no presumption of paternity for the father. But the father can still obtain rights. Whose penis was injected that was responsible for making the child? This country states that a husband did PRESUMED to be the only penis. If not married, no presumption.

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