What is the name of your state? I live in Wisconsin. I have a 7 year old son. He was born from a very abusive relationship. His bio father was and I believe still is a drug addict. He is a felon with a long record of armed robbery, home invasion, and drug dealing. Since my son was 1 1/2 years old- his father has only seen him 3 times. I had a restraining order on him for 2 years and was in hiding due to his threats of killing me. When my son was 2, I met another man and he has been the father figure to my son for the last 5 years. In 2004 we had a daughter. We were not married. We recently split up but he is still very active in raising both of my children. I had heard that my son's father had worked a job for awhile and had been doing better with his life. I decided to go for child support. After 8 months of waiting to kick in- I recieved my first check a few days ago. For the last year I have been thinking about if I died my son would go to his bio dad. This can't happen. I have since learned he relasped for the 100th time with drugs and still is a very bad role model. My daughter's father and I have discussed having him adopt my son even though we are not in a relationship anymore. I want to do this to make sure my son would go to him if I died and not to his father where his life would be ruined. What steps can I take to prevent this? Can my ex , my daughter's father adopt my son- and with that get the bio dad's parental rights terminated to do so?

