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  1. #31
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    Default Re: What if No Custodial Parent Available to Receive Child After Non-Custodial Visita

    Of course I want custody, but can no longer afford to fight. I am angry at the alienation that has happened. I provided a loving home with appropriate rules and supported their activities. There was no win/win after the divorce when their father told me, "I will get these children away from you in any way I can." Now, after an unwarranted CPS call and years of fighting false allegations the boys are choosing to live with their stepmother who is usually away at medical school, and her mother who only speaks Chinese, while the boys father is in Alaska 3-4 out of every 6 weeks. All the mental health people we've consulted say that the father's parenting must fail in the boys' eyes before they would choose me over a father who has pressured them to dislike me. I'm just trying to keep them safe, keep my visitation rights, and not get further abused by their father in the process. I'm not bitter that I "lost", I'm bitter about how I lost, and how difficult it now seems to be to have peaceful visitation without further manipulation from my ex.

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    Default Re: What if No Custodial Parent Available to Receive Child After Non-Custodial Visita

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    Of course I want custody, but can no longer afford to fight. I am angry at the alienation that has happened. I provided a loving home with appropriate rules and supported their activities. There was no win/win after the divorce when their father told me, "I will get these children away from you in any way I can." Now, after an unwarranted CPS call and years of fighting false allegations the boys are choosing to live with their stepmother who is usually away at medical school, and her mother who only speaks Chinese, while the boys father is in Alaska 3-4 out of every 6 weeks. All the mental health people we've consulted say that the father's parenting must fail in the boys' eyes before they would choose me over a father who has pressured them to dislike me. I'm just trying to keep them safe, keep my visitation rights, and not get further abused by their father in the process. I'm not bitter that I "lost", I'm bitter about how I lost, and how difficult it now seems to be to have peaceful visitation without further manipulation from my ex.
    Yet you want to argue over everything. you don't want to put the kids on a plane that dad pays for (and at their ages they can sit at the gate themselves) but you are more than willing to drive to Seattle. You just don't want to drop them at the airport. You want to drop them ONLY at his house regardless and you don't want extra time (that is what YOU said). Should I continue with how YOU are the one making this difficult? You say the children are alienated. How has YOUR behavior added to that? You have blamed everyone else but what have YOU done? Do they want to go to Alaska to see their father? If so, how do you think they will react to YOU throwing a fit over it when you don't need to do so? You need own your part of this. Father is NOT abusing you by wanting his children to fly to Alaska. The fact you characterize it as such is ridiculous and trivializes the idea of actual abuse.

  3. #33
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    Default Re: What if No Custodial Parent Available to Receive Child After Non-Custodial Visita

    I have continuously been put in no win situations in this case. I have for years paid for the kids to do things and participate in sports and band when their father wouldn't pay nor attend. I have paid for multiple summer camps that the kids have asked for and loved, just to be accused of depriving their father of his children. We've been alternating Christmas and New Years for 7 years now, he knew years ago that the boys would be with him this year, yet he's working. And yes, I resent having to do extra work for my ex to ignore time with his kids again, whether it be in Seattle or Anchorage. I'd love extra time with my kids! Are you kidding? I'm just terrified of what other accusation their dad will throw at me if I keep them longer. This string started with one question only: If I put my kids on the plane in Oregon and they have to transfer to another plane as unaccompanied minors inside the Seattle airport for a separate ticket paid for by their father, am I or their dad responsible for them getting to Alaska? Also, if no adult is available to receive them in Seattle if I cannot get them to the airport, what then? That is all I need to know. Thank you for your compassion for all the crap I've gone through in losing my kids to a man who won't take care of them.

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    Default Re: What if No Custodial Parent Available to Receive Child After Non-Custodial Visita

    I guess I don't understand - why would you not be able to get them to a local airport if you can get them to Seattle?

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    Default Re: What if No Custodial Parent Available to Receive Child After Non-Custodial Visita

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    I have continuously been put in no win situations in this case. I have for years paid for the kids to do things and participate in sports and band when their father wouldn't pay nor attend. I have paid for multiple summer camps that the kids have asked for and loved, just to be accused of depriving their father of his children. We've been alternating Christmas and New Years for 7 years now, he knew years ago that the boys would be with him this year, yet he's working. And yes, I resent having to do extra work for my ex to ignore time with his kids again, whether it be in Seattle or Anchorage. I'd love extra time with my kids! Are you kidding? I'm just terrified of what other accusation their dad will throw at me if I keep them longer. This string started with one question only: If I put my kids on the plane in Oregon and they have to transfer to another plane as unaccompanied minors inside the Seattle airport for a separate ticket paid for by their father, am I or their dad responsible for them getting to Alaska? Also, if no adult is available to receive them in Seattle if I cannot get them to the airport, what then? That is all I need to know. Thank you for your compassion for all the crap I've gone through in losing my kids to a man who won't take care of them.
    Check out the prices for tickets from where you live, to Anchorage, and check out the prices from Seattle to Anchorage. If I am correct, and the prices are very similar, then you would have the leverage to insist that dad provide tickets from your city to Anchorage, or to insist that you pay only the difference between the two tickets.

    If they fly as unaccompanied minors, then the airlines will escort them from one flight to the other.

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