Scientific articles I'm talking about are not written by journalists trying to interpret/spin to their own liking - I'm very well aware that journalists are not scientists, but any average person can obtain actual scientific reports, though the average person might not understand them. I am fortunate to have been educated in a field of science that exposed me to actual science.
As far as the pornography concern, my son has ventured into adult websites that seem to target kids through web based games, at least as best as I can tell through what the parental control software reporting shows. He asks me questions sometimes that suggest he's seen some pretty vulgar things..
I'm not talking about him being too strict when he yells.. I'm talking about him being emotionally abusive. I'm all for rules, but when a kid gets in trouble not for breaking rules but just because dad is grumpy, and the kid asks to be fed...
I acknowledge that my son could be embellishing, but his fear is real, these are conversations we have on a regular basis.
This is one example of the character lessons I'm talking about -
Bible lesson on patience contains Proverbs 14:29 Anyone who is patient has great understanding but anyone who gets angry quickly shows how foolish they are - turns into a conversation about dad because dad gets angry quickly. My response is to try to turn the conversation back to how my son should act and how everyone has things that the are not very good at, and need to work on. I'm not trying to create conflict for my son.
Also, just because I'm not detailing for you the affects these things are having on my son, they are affecting him negatively. I would like to resolve the issues before they become serious enough to take to court, but I am willing to do that if I have to. Not to force dad to parent the way I do, or just make better decisions, but to change the parenting time to reflect what is better for my son.
Also, video games in excessive amounts (or any other screen time excessively) do cause brain damage. I can send you the research if you would like.
I'm prepared to fight that battle.

My son is doing extremely well in homeschool.