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readytoleave
Good morning Ebooker8388,
Joint custody refers to decision making. That doesn't necessarily mean 50/50 timeshare though, which seems to be your primary concern. And since you say this is an accurate portrayal, you will likely find that once he finds out that he will end up paying child support anyways, not much will change in your current arrangement since he already avoids time anyways. I don't think you have much to worry about.
Judges see this all the time, where parents go for full custody to avoid child support. They won't fall for it. He isn't going to get a 24/7 situation, but will eventually get overnights and weekends. Even a few weeks in the summer. If your child barely knows his father, then you can asked for a phased in approach, working up to longer periods of time.
Also, just as a side note, you shouldn't refer to the time your child spends with his father as "babysitting." Regardless of your feelings on the matter, or how uninvolved he seems to be in parenting, that terminology doesn't come off well on you.