Regaining Access to a Younger Child, Abused by an Older Child

[Dogmatique]

I asked a question. I will pose it again.............Do you think I should have kicked my son out when he was too young to care for himself? Yes or no. Thanks!

Do you really think that was your only option? Yes or no. Thanks!

[wolfcreekgal]

I most certainly DO understand the ramifications of what my son did as I've been living with the nightmare for over four years now. Oh, and how I wish I could take back the 'upper middle class' part of my thread. I certainly didn't mean to come across as 'better than' by saying that. I stand corrected and I totally understand I can't see my younger son with the older one around.

[qwaspolk69]

I most certainly DO understand the ramifications of what my son did as I've been living with the nightmare for over four years now. Oh, and how I wish I could take back the 'upper middle class' part of my thread. I certainly didn't mean to come across as 'better than' by saying that. I stand corrected and I totally understand I can't see my younger son with the older one around.

So you are inherently choosing one child over the other. You are choosing a predator over your younger son who was taken advantage of by a predator.

I understand he is your son but he is also a monster. If my child ever molested one of her cousins or siblings or anyone, I would tell her to get the hell out of my house. If any of her older siblings (albeit they are half siblings) ever laid a hand on her I would make sure they landed in jail.

You sound like a horrible person who does not deserve to have any children.

[mmmagique]

Her younger son was first victim and then predator. I don't think she had any way of knowing her younger child would also become a predator. Btw, how old was your younger son when he "played doctor" with his nephew or niece?

I don't remember, but I assume he had a lot of counseling after he was touched by his older brother?

This is a horrible situation to be in. I would recommend counseling for everyone. Good luck.

[wolfcreekgal]

I can't believe how sanctimonious most of the people here think they are. One would surmise the bulk of you walk around with halos over your heads. All I can say is I hope all of you are as 'perfect' as you think you are. I already know I'm not.

[Dogmatique]

I can't believe how sanctimonious most of the people here think they are. One would surmise the bulk of you walk around with halos over your heads. All I can say is I hope all of you are as 'perfect' as you think you are. I already know I'm not.

Oh honey, my halo slipped many years ago and I've been tripping over the dratted thing ever since. It's also somewhat tarnished ... but that's neither here nor there.

[wolfcreekgal]

Thanks dogmatique for admitting you're not perfect either. Hindsight is always 20/20. Believe me, I prayed a LOT before I embarked on any of the decisions I made concerning all of this. I sincerely thought I was doing the right thing. Turns out danged near every possible thing I did was the wrong method of handling things. That being said, we don't learn anything by doing things right, we only learn when we choose wrongly and see the screwed-up results of that poor decision.